Welcome to post seven y’all. This post features parenting again, but from a different perspective. I interviewed my friend Selene, who runs not one, but two businesses, while managing a family of three. She’s a real power woman, and inspirational to people like me, who can’t even get up to select yes when my Netflix asks “are you still watching?”. Effin’ Netflix, so judgmental. Anyways! Selene and I met a couple years back, and I like to Facebook stalk her because she always has something cool happening (or stalk her cat on Instagram, who has a ridiculous amount of followers).
Me: Muscly men?
Selene: Ya…..not necessarily big muscly, but like defined muscly.
Me: Would you date someone shorter than you?
Selene: Probably not. Been there, done that. If you can pick them up and throw them, you probably shouldn’t date them.
Me: Drugs during childbirth?
Selene: Oh god yeah. Oh my god. I didn’t get enough.
Me: How involved do you like to be in your kid’s life? Like full on soccer mom/head of the pta?
Selene: Nooo. I’m trying to build independent children. I think it’s important. I think there’s too many parents who are way too involved in their kid’s life. My kids are ten and twelve, and other kids their age, you see that there is no independence happening at all, and I think that’s kind of scary. As a parent, you’re not always going to be there, so let them get used to that fact, and have them be confident in their choices that they make. But there are people who like to do it (head of the pac committee), so if they like to do it, then let them do it.
Me: What kind of balance have you come to with your spouse, and has it changed as your kids have grown older?
Selene: Okay, let’s hope this is really anonymous. My personal theory is that if Moms aren’t happy, then no one is going to be happy, so I may be on the selfish side of the spectrum, as to how much time I put into myself and what I want to do. Moms are the matriarch of the family, so everybody’s well-being depends on them. And I’m okay with that.
Me: What’s your best solution for dealing with stress?
Selene: Drinking? <laughs> Which, actually, if you talk to a lot of Moms, I don’t think that’s going to be a big surprise. Moms and their wine is a big joke, but it’s totally a thing.
Me: What time of day are you most productive?
Selene: Mornings. I get up and I go to the gym, and then by the time I get home from the gym and I have a shower, then it’s full on getting the kids out the door. Then, if I have to start my workday, then I can take a couple hours and be productive that way. By about noon, I’m like, okay, I’m tired.
Me: What’s been your biggest challenge so far?
Selene: Wanting to control everything. Allowing, basically. What I’ve come to realize now is that you do as much as you can to get everything in place, and then after that it’s kind of like, well, I did everything I can. You kind of have to allow it to unfold, and be positive. Trying to be positive? Oof! That’s a very tricky thing, cause when your kids are little, you’re positive and then you get headbutted by your two year old. And then you’re like, how am I supposed to be positive? I just got headbutted!
El Santo in New Westminster was the target this week. I feel like I got a mixed experience this time, so I would like to try it again, maybe in a month or two. Both Selene and I are vegetarians, and since there were a few different veg dishes that were good for sharing, we just ordered a bunch. The queso fundido and rajas con crema came out first. We both really enjoyed the queso, but felt that the rajas lacked a bit of flavour. So we mixed the queso and rajas together in our accompanying tortilla shells and magic happened. We then got the verduras tacos, which I really enjoyed. The last dish was the enchiladas flor de jamaica, which I probably liked the least. The enchiladas could’ve used some guacamole or maybe more sauce on top, and the cilantro rice, which had great flavour, was a little crunchy and under cooked. Overall though, the presentation of all the dishes was beautiful, the service was amazing, and the margaritas were very delicious. I can’t stand a fake tasting margarita. The ambience was also probably the nicest I’ve seen in a mexican place. I feel like it might have just been an off-night, and will definitely be back.